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Hi Trotter,
I think in this case a girl expect that your friend will pay for everything. First, you are right: "classical" Russian tradition is "man pay for everything". Despite that by now there are women in Russia with good income and they can pay for their expenses (include travels), majority of them regards a man not only as a friend but also as a breadwinner/provider. Especially with foreigners - most of them think that "all the foreigners are rich men".
Hi,
I cannot give the perspective of a Russian, but I am a foreigner and I have dated Russian women. So far, my experience has been that the man is expected to be gallant in offering to pay for most things, but a man will garner no respect here if he is dishonest about his means. All in all, I have probably paid for about 60% of the dinners, and heve been treated to many things myself. As for travelling, he is not expected to pay for her ticket, or other expensive things. It's ok to ask about splitting some of the cost. Unless your frind has tried to give her the impression that he is an enless well of money, I doubt she will be put off by having to pay at least some of her part. If she is just some kind of leach who will disapear when the cash runs out, then good riddance! There are many wonderful Russian women out there (they outnumber the men). Most of them are sensible and realistic. If she speaks English, she probably has a more realistic image of foreigners than most.
All the best
Jason
Hello,
I am Russian, and a girl )
Yes we do expect men to pay for everything, and its not cause we think they are rich or foreigners are rich, but because of our culture. Tho often we can pay for everything, and sometimes have more money than our guys do we still let them pay for us, and guys normally do mind us to pay for dinner or something else.
Well, if a boy and a girl are not very close yet, normally the girl doesnt expect very expensive gifts (such as a trip) on that stage.
And in this situation, as it was a girl who started talking about that trip, it might mean that she might be able to afford it herself. To be more sure, can you tell me what does she do? I mean her work.
Best thing your friend can do is to talk honestly about this, cause if he is not going to lie about his financial situation and if this is not only money what the girl is looking for, I think she would understand everything and they could find the way out.
But it might be difficult a bit in the beginning of talk as we dont really talk very openly about money. If he starts "slowly" , talking first a bit "around" this question, finally he will find out what she expects and she will understand what he can.
Hope this can help your friend,
Vic.
After reading these posts, I would say that whilst it depends on the woman, culturally yes, she would expect to be paid for. Many Russian women put their men through hell to make sure that they will be able to provide for them in later life and will stick by them. The reason is that Russian men are generally a bit useless after 30 as they become more dependeent on alcohol and a sad fact of life in Russia is that the men are often dead from alcohol by 50. So women need to know that they can have someone who is strong enough to provide for them for later and perhaps strong enough not to become an alcoholic. The prospect of a foreigner, especially a Westerner, is extremely attractive to most Russian women therefore. But they do not share the western values of femenism etc!!!! There is no splitting the bill for Russian women or you pay for this and i pay for that.In fact most of my russian friends feel extremely strongly about this and they are very open minded otherwise quite enlightened people. I think it would be difficult to convince a russian woman that she should pay for her own flight and hotel, extremely difficult in fact.That doesnt mean that she is expecting the best accomodation etc russian women are generally not bitches, but very understanding and extremely practical. Although this does depend a bit on which area of Russia they are from. Perhaps your friend should explain that as he does not have that much money, they should stay in cheaper places, but he will pay. I think that if he does this, she should be understanding and accept the situation. But to answer your question simply, Yes, Russian men are expected to pay for EVERYTHING in Russia!!!! Hope your friend can sort the situation out! Rebekah
Many Russian women put their men through hell to make sure that they will be able to provide for them in later life and will stick by them. The reason is that Russian men are generally a bit useless after 30 as they become more dependeent on alcohol and a sad fact of life in Russia is that the men are often dead from alcohol by 50.
Oops! I am 40-years old Russian, but I am not depend on alcohol And all my friends too. What's wrong?
I think it would be difficult to convince a russian woman that she should pay for her own flight and hotel, extremely difficult in fact.
As mentioned above, it' s depend. Woman with good income can pay for her travel without any problem. Moreover, she can insist on this to show her independence.
Cybervlad,
dont get upset
foreigners have very sandard opinion about Russians, and its hard to change it many of them still think we have vodka every day and that its always cold here (in whole Russia). The ones who have been to Russia (esp big cities) have changed their mind.
Anyway I don't know many girls here who would insist on paying for the trip just to show independence
Tho many of us have good income, thats right
But again, that guy must be honest about his financial situation, then everything will be fine.
And I agree with kayossus, sheaper hotel and cheaper trip could make the question easier, if that guy can afford them.
Best regards,
Vic.
Anyway I don't know many girls here who would insist on paying for the trip just to show independence
I don't speak about majority, but I met girls who prefer pay for herself
Anyway, I agree with you:
that guy must be honest about his financial situation, then everything will be fine.
Just discuss this question, and everything will be Ok.
Hi all!
I think that to talk about this question it's useless .
I read an interview to Sarah Palin (candidate as vice president in next US presidential election) , and she told that if she will win elections, she will begin a new war against Russia!
And I am afraid that if she will win, Russia will disappear from the world!
And then I will can't go next summer to visit Russia!
And then, dear Trotter, you will must to tell your friend that he will must begin to consider to lose its russian girl forever!
Regards
she told that if she will win elections, she will begin a new war against Russia!
And I am afraid that if she will win, Russia will disappear from the world!
If this was a joke, this is a BAD joke.
You don't really know what is a war, so, please, do not repeat after some stupid politics their stupid speeches.
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